Meeting number six
With the aim of peace, everywhere, starting here, now, transforming violence in life, one word, thought or deed at a time.
it’s not the slog that will get us there, it’s the joy
to balance things up there will also be examples of things that warmed our hearts
Starting where transformation is needed, examples from the sixth meeting this week on Thursday 5th May
1.Peace at home, or the lack of it
And the effect on our ability or capacity to handle or witness the lack of peace in the world.
The physical environment in a home… how it
how it looks, for me include
the quality of what’s there, the craft of how things have been made, the labour, care and love that’s gone into things, the fairness of reward for those that made them.
Also the amount of things and the extent to which they’re used and loved and how they’re arranged in relationship to one another. It was seeing Barbara Hepworth’s work at Tate Britain last year that helped me understand why I arrange things the way I do. It’s how they are in relationship to each other.
Sitting side by side but at an unrelateable distance, staring straight ahead, looking like they’re not talking… or curved round angled toward each other, together making a shape, a combined profile that’s maybe even more beautiful than each on their own, for the regard of their gaze
Or the simplest thing…that they are excess, neglected, dirty or in poor repair or unnoticed and unloved…clutter
how it smells
from the simplest fresh air … the airing of rooms and whether the windows open easily for that
the washing dried outside on the line and bringing that freshness back in with them and everything extra from there….all contribute to the peace at home for me
how it sounds
I think this is the one that most strongly affects my equilibrium and sense of peace at home
Hard floor surfaces and the carrying of sounds through the house.
Footsteps, in stockinged feet or heels, clanging of pots pans and crockery, LOUDER than regular phone calls needed in order to be heard in poor reception calls across continents.
Appliances ‘helpfully’ bEEping to tell you they’re done boiling the water, washing the dishes, cooking the food, reaching the temperature you wanted, going up another step in temperature. Phones with assorted and conflicting ring tones all making their discordant symphony alerting you to the cold call about to pretend not to be selling you a wide range of things you didn’t ask for.
Yes… work to be done here
how it feels
how comfortable and supportive is the furniture… just right cushions, propped, plumped and waiting or solid and sliding on slippery surfaces
comfortable temperature… just right warmth
and agreement about all of these things or tussles over the thermostat, the placing of things
So much potential for peace or the lack of it, just in the physical environment at home
The effect of lack of peace at home for me, is to send me on retreat inside myself, a withdrawal in search of peace inside. And a reduction of my capacity for activities, especially those where help is needed to bring peace.
I went to their annal meeting and it was a joy. Total joy from beginning to end.
The AGM of a bank…a total joy! They called the day ‘The work of art’
Nonviolent Banking – with customers needs equal to those of the bank. Not less important – equal.
I knew they were good… but this exceeded all expectations and gives me hope for humanity and its relationship with money.
Bankers with soul. Human bankers. Suits with soul. There’s so much that’s good…
I can say much, much more. If you’d like to hear just ask, I’d be delighted.
A violent and disturbing film. Sri Lankan people escape a Tamil refugee camp and end up living in a gang run house in Paris.
Wanting to know. Not wanting human suffering to be going on with us sitting in ignorance.
Yet if it is more shocking, more horrific than our systems can take without collapsing, then the knowing is to no end.
Camassia, planted a decade ago and assumed dead. Blooming!
What’s that purple haze in the garden?
Ah! Camassia, two big clumps with 3 or 4 flower heads each.
(Prince!? Is that purple haze your doing?)
Next in person meeting
Thursday 19th May, 7.30 – 9pm
The Salisbury Arms Hotel, Hertford
Words, the language we consume and adding the language we use to talk to others or ourselves.
Plus – now adding thoughts
Examples of violence in thought and in the language we are surrounded by and consume which we would like to be otherwise.
If, there’s an extra need for empathy for ourselves as we begin to look at the violence of our own thoughts, have a read here for some guidance with that
– examples of violent language and/or thoughts and/or deeds
– the translation if you already know how you’d like it to be
– examples of the heartwarming, so as to remember that love and peace are there in the world
Bring the heartwarming in whatever balance is good for your heart.
Your feel fine balance might be one heartwarming example for ten violent examples,
you might need ten heartwarming ones for every one violent one, or in equal measure…
adjust according to your heart’s needs. I think that my heart has grown very heavy looking at the state of the world this past few years, I may need to bring many more heartwarming examples for some time to rebalance my nervous system and lift my heart again.