Give Peace a Year – Meeting eight


Meeting number eight

With the aim of peace, everywhere, starting here, now, transforming violence and conflict of needs  in life, one word, thought or deed at a time.

And because

it’s not the slog that will get us there, it’s the joy

for balance, things that warmed our hearts.


Starting where transformation is needed.

Examples from the group of peace lovers this week on Thursday 2nd June


1.Women tweeting violent abusive threats to other women who have posted their opinion or wish that there were more women in science

Feeling distressed by this. Wanting to unpick, maybe to attempt to understand… what is that… what’s going on here?


Could it be a response to women having a voice from those women who haven’t been allowed to have their voice and who believe it’s not ok to publicly have an opinion, especially if it’s about women having more of a place in male dominated fields.

Could it be from not being allowed to have a voice, especially when it’s an angry response, that it’s an anonymous place to vent, when other places are barred?

Beginning to soften a little, seeing potentail needs of the abusive tweeters



All the refugee clothing is now sorted, labelled and on its way.

People volunteered to help with it which made what was feeling like a huge weight on my shoulders an easy and enjoyable thing to do.


2. Friends colluding with each other in unwanted overeating – uncomfortable to be there

Wanting to talk through the situation and consider what I might do differently.

Was away for a while with friends, sharing accommodation and being together 24/7 for the time away.  Not wanting to also join in and encourage ‘yes, have another cream tea, you’re not on holiday every week’, when knowing it’s not really wanted,

nor feeling able to speak about what they had said they did want,

nor feeling able to share my own happiness at having lost some weight and be feeling healthier. It made for an uncomfortable and tense time. There’s plans to do it again next year and I’m in a dilemma about it.

Talking it through and getting empathy for the discomfort I feel about it, helped a lot. I feel much better now and being more relaxed am better able to think through what I might do about next time.



35 people came together and organised a wonderful community event.

Just seeing people collaborating and making things happen makes me feel so hopeful about the future and the possibility of change happening.

More heartwarming

Coming back from being away and finding my garden had sprung into life, what a welcome home.


3. Do you want to grab a coffee

‘Grab’ coming into more common use, I wonder without thought to the qualities implied.

I don’t know of any time, outside of an emergency, that I’d want to grab anything.

Even when it is an emergency, the instructions are to leave things behind and not grab things to take with you.

I can’t think why I might want to grab something… it conjures a feeling of scarcity.

Not enough of things… not enough time to spend together…need to grab it?  It’s not sounding appealing.

Marketing from scarcity…grab your place on the course…eeech no… not the atmosphere for learning that is going to work for me

If I’m going to have a coffee, I’d like to take the time to enjoy it and the company of the person I’m with. If we have to rush it, I’d rather go for another time when it won’t be a rush. If there’s never time when it won’t be a rush, I’d be giving thought to whether some lifestyle changes might be in order.


An antidote to scarcity and the need to grab anything.

My Basic Income awarded their first, crowd funded, basic income this week.

If no-one was living in fear of not having enough for a roof over their heads or to eat, how would that change things?!

What a fantastic thing to do.

More heartwarming

The magazine Positive News  published the story about the UN calling for a move towards constructive journalism.

I’m so delighted about this as it’s something I frequently get rattled about and it’s so good to know that someone has it on their agenda and is bringing the matter to public and media attention.



Next in person meeting

Thursday 16th June, 7.30 – 9pm

The Salisbury Arms Hotel, Hertford

Dates for the rest of the year here
Guidelines for the group here
Email to let me know if you’re coming and I’ll make sure there’s a seat for you

Focus –

Words, the language we consume and adding the language we use to talk to others or ourselves.

Plus – now adding thoughts and deeds

Examples of violence in word, thought and deeds that we are surrounded by and consume which we would like to be otherwise.

If, there’s an extra need for empathy for ourselves as we begin to look at the violence of our own thoughts, have a read here for some guidance with that


– examples of violent language and/or thoughts and/or deeds
– the translation if you already know how you’d like it to be
– examples of the heartwarming, so as to remember that love and peace are there in the world

Bring the heartwarming in whatever balance is good for your heart.

Your feel fine balance might be one heartwarming example for ten violent examples,

you might need ten heartwarming ones for every one violent one, or in equal measure…

adjust according to your heart’s needs. I think that my heart has grown very heavy looking at the state of the world this past few years, I may need to bring many more heartwarming examples for some time to rebalance my nervous system and lift my heart again.

P.S. The photo wasn’t taken this week, we haven’t found daffodils blooming in June.



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