Give Peace a Year – Meeting seventeen



With the aim of peace, everywhere, starting here, now, transforming violence and conflict of needs  in life, one word, thought or deed at a time.

And because

it’s not the slog that will get us there, it’s the joy

for balance, things that warmed our hearts and made life a pleasure.

There was plenty this time. This joy... much gladness.


Starting where transformation is needed.

Examples from the group of peace lovers this week on Thursday 20th October

The pain of one dimensional conversations

Rendering inadmissible matters of the heart or soul, no feelings taken into account, only facts and things considered logical allowed. Not acknowledging or dealing with upset.

For example

saying ‘they get over their spats soon enough’ when faced with concern over physical abuse

giving unsolicited advice and telling me what the facts are when listening was requested and when the facts were not the point, the feelings were.

saying ‘homeopathy is rubbish’ giving that opinion as if it’s a fact, and the danger of that being taken as agreed with if unchallenged, yet not having the energy to keep offering alternative views every time this happens

I’d like more reciprocity? maybe…

an openness to the existence of views and experiences other than their own…

giving and receiving in the interaction, a willingness to listen on both sides so as to feel heard and understood and for the response to show that,  not to reject the non logical part of the human condition.

I would like a strategy… how to be, when I’m frustrated that the conversation and response I’m getting is in one dimension only.

I think if I can reach the point of accepting that the other person hasn’t the capacity or bandwidth or something, to hear those things and not to expect it.

Then to see whether I soften after that and whether what I feel able to do changes from that acceptance.

Bringing it here to open up the matter and start to explore it for myself.


The joy – oil paints and mixing colours

Splashing around with paint, with nothing to do but enjoy myself.

The luscious rich pigment in oil paints. Playing with mixing colours… the infinite variations with a squeeze more white, a blob more red.

Tord Gustavsen on piano playing along. So very happy making.



Please don’t stamp on my intuition.

It’s taken 57 years for my experience to affirm my intuition.

Which is why I don’t appreciate anyone stamping on it and the reason I now trust and follow it.

In my teens I had an intuitive flash, a knowing, about religion and spirituality. I then spent the next 57 years listening to others talk about it in ways that were different from my intuitive flash.  I erred on the side of believing them. I went the experiential route to find and test out what was so for me and have ended up right back at the intuitive knowing.

It’s taken many ‘signs’ for me to catch on and get the message but I’m listening now and feel confident about leaving a path to travel a new one.

I’m bringing this one here to share, be heard and celebrate the peace I feel having reached this point and trusting myself.


Having a place to talk about ways to make more peace

I love having this place to come where we can talk about things and think things through, without being given unsolicited advice or attempts to fix you or tell you you’re wrong.

All of you

These words came during a session of Writing Raw, a class with Julie Daley and seem to be apt for the themes from this meeting of Give Peace a Year. They resonate for how we are here with one-another and also describe well what guides the corporate and private coaching work that I do.

I’m calling it ‘All of You’ for now. ‘Whole’ might work too.


“Make the space, for the truth to safely surface

for what’s really wholehearted, to be safely felt

for what’s tight in there to unfurl a little

a little, a breath, a little more

it’s ok – it really is


What is there, in there

what is it that’s needed

it’s alright – truly it is

take care with it, take care of it


Unfurling, the beauty, the space

it can be, you can be

breathing again, deeper now, feeling the expansion

of the space, where you can be

where you can unfurl and be seen, seen by yourself at least


What wants to be, to be seen

what wants to be taken into the world

the world needs it

needs it especially now”


Fried eggs and brown shrimps for breakfast

Staying with friends who really like having you there.

And who serve a beautifully chosen and cooked breakfast




Next in person meeting

Thursday 3rd November, 7.30 – 9pm

The Salisbury Arms Hotel, Hertford

Dates for the rest of the year here
Guidelines for the group here

Email to let me know if you’re coming and we’ll keep you a seat.