About Me

paulineesson

How I work

I begin by creating space and sanctuary. People who have been in difficult situations for some time tend to find themselves spending most of their energy on simply staying afloat.

I effectively throw out a life ring, lift some of the weight, and carve out a safe space in which you can breathe, relax at least a little, and get some perspective.

The first thing we usually find is that as the needs of the project, organisation and possibly family are demanding priority, and that your own needs have become almost entirely neglected. As a result, you suffer, and have often become way less effective than you are when at your spirited and inspired best.

We work together to restore your oxygen supply, so to speak: to identify and respect your own needs, and to find ways to ensure they’re met in an ongoing way that works for the long term. This can be the critical factor to unleashing enormous energy, effectiveness and establishing deep wellbeing.

I have absolute faith that we’ll manage it, even if it might not seem do-able to you at the point when you’re looking for help. If you lack faith, you can borrow some of mine for the time being. I know we’ll get there.

I am a dedicated ally throughout the change period. I work in a gentle way, underlined by a fierce determination to see you get beyond struggle, beyond coping, and into living a joyful, spirited life.  You are likely to find that once you take this quiet time, the things that you need and ideas about how to move forward, come and land in your lap.

My approach is forward looking, oriented towards personal innovation, creativity and action. We are sculpting the future. Clients frequently express a sense of liberation from their perceived notions of how things have to be; their eyes become opened to the possible.

I should tell you that I’m firmly planted in the mainstream world, yet I have long explored the world of holistic and alternative therapies and have found real gems that can be exactly what’s needed. Expect a little of that but at all times translated into your native language and only ever practised in a way that doesn’t have you wanting to roll your eyes heavenward.

Occasionally there may be some underlying patterns that are preventing us from living life as we’d like to. These patterns can need a little unpacking, which we can do. If the past becomes the overall focus of the work, however, and more unpacking is needed before forward motion is possible then it may be most helpful for us to find you someone, who you like, to work with in a more therapeutic way.

I had a growing awareness that there were things about myself that I needed to deal with but I’d never got to the bottom of the issues.  I’d tried lots of things, outplacement consultants and different coaching techniques, but they weren’t getting me anywhere.

I liked that you wanted to really understand me and what I wanted rather than apply a process to me.

I got more than I expected from our coaching.  I have a lot more drive and I’m talking excitedly about my future.  I didn’t expect it to enable me to feel excited about things, that in the past, would have scared me.  I’d have rationalised why not to do things and limited my potential.”

— John Metherell, Consultant, Cambridge Learning Associates

Less about how I work and more about what’s shaped me….

Influences and Inspirations

Sir Terence Conran

For showing post war Britain the possibility of beauty rather than only utlility

For running a business where design and profit were equally important

For being willing, when I asked, to come and meet Habitat Youth Training Scheme trainees.

For the best kedgeree recipe I have.

www.conran.com/conran/biography.html

Gabrielle Roth

For the lightest spirit I know

For five rhythms dance that you can’t do wrong, can only do your way

For encouragement to keep exploring your way till you’ve seen the very edges of it and push on out even from those edges

www.gabrielleroth.com

E.F.Schumacher

For economics as though people mattered

For the schumacher society

www.schumacher.org.uk

Thorwald Dethlefson & Rudiger Dahlke

For The Healing Power of Illness

For telling me what our symptoms are telling us

Thomas Moore

For embracing the darkness.  How to be with yourself on a dark night of the soul

www.careofthesoul.net

John O Donohue

For the softest Irish soul and fellow celt who wrote amongst many others Divine Beauty, a gentle but urgent call to awaken.

www.johnodonohue.com

Scilla Elworthy

For being an inspiration, for wanting to be ‘powerful in a way that is not in itself abusive’ and for rolling her sleeves up and getting into ‘how and by whom nuclear weapons decisions are made worldwide’

www.worldfuturecouncil.org/scilla_elworthy.html

Marshall Rosenberg

For founding nonviolent communication which provides a model for changing lives and consciousness everywhere.

www.cnvc.org

Julio Olalla

For ontological coaching.

www.newfieldnetwork.com

Julia Cameron

For The Artists Way which has the power to bring my flagging spirit back to life in 12 weeks

www.theartistsway.com

Nancy Kline

For ‘Time to Think’, the most human management process and writing about management I’ve read

www.timetothink.com

David Whyte

For guts in the workplace and in poetry

www.davidwhyte.com

Eckhart Tolle

For the ultimate clarity in our reason for being

www.eckharttolle.com

Margaret Benefiel

For ground level research in what spirit looks like when it is present in the workplace

www.executivesoul.com

Isabel Briggs Myers

For providing a way of looking at personality preferences that encourages the best from people, viewing preferences as gifts and to look for where those gifts would be valuable rather than where they’re not valued and are viewed as weaknesses requiring correction or improvement. Ah.  What a relief.

http://www.capt.org/mbti-assessment/isabel-myers.htm

M Scott Peck

For turning my head early on with ‘The Road Less Travelled’

Iris Murdoch

For blending philosophy and fiction like no other

The Sea The Sea probably still my favourite for the meals concocted in amongst the philosophy

http://www.biblio.com/author_biographies/2036742/Iris_Murdoch.html

Gabriel Faure

For his requiem which takes me to other places

http://is.gd/QNat this is the recording I have

Giuseppe Verdi

For his requiem which also takes me to other places

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LsZEv7kAllo this is a one and a half hour live version

Keith Jarrett

For losing himself in performances like The Koln concert

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jzqMJWlKMsY

Arvo Part

For ‘Alina’ the adult’s lullaby

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QtFPdBUl7XQ

Buena Vista Social Club

For making age no obstacle

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BoQNj2tlZhg&feature=related&pos=8

My Auntie Madge

For her light spirit in an otherwise dreich north east Scotland.  Whilst others trudged, Auntie Madge sprung, whilst others bleated, Auntie Madge fairly sang (metaphorically speaking).  She had the capacity to find pleasure in anything and to lighten the mood of every room she entered.  She also loved her husband, as he did her. They were a joy to be around. And fun.

Twitter

For connection to countless, countless sources of beauty, ideas, conversations, spirited people doing amazing, beautiful things that are inspiring and good.  An entirely refreshing view from the mainstream which I had wearied of a long time ago.

www.twitter.com/paulineesson

Training and qualifications

Accredited Coach Association for Coaching
Member Association for Coaching
Certificate in Training and Development Institute of Training and Development
Advanced Diploma in Management Development Roffey Park and University of Salford
Certificate in Holistic Spirituality and Spiritual Companionship William Bloom
Nonviolent Communication Centre for Nonviolent Communication
Certificate in Occupational Testing In house course, The Burton Group
Myers Briggs Type Indicator Licensed Practitioner Oxford Psychology Press OPP
Hypnosis Foundation Course Uncommon Knowledge
Qualified Holistic Massage Therapist Massage Training Institute + ITEC