Give Peace a Year – meeting twenty four

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With the aim of peace everywhere,

 starting here and now, transforming violence and conflict of needs  in life, one word, thought or deed at a time.

We have now given peace a year!

The big review is complete.

Upon reflection we see that priceless things have been happening.

For which we say thank you, and

 MORE! 

We are going to give peace another year. 

Give Peace a Year²

 

The priceless things and how the first year went

We started on the 11th February 2016 and it’s been quite a year in the world.  We’ve been glad to be together ‘giving peace a year’ during this year of upheaval in many ways.   

A year of words, thoughts and deeds in our lives, that felt violent to us, brought to be given a dose of our collective attention.

Sometimes looking for ideas of how to change things, other times it’s empathy we’re in need of, feeling shocked to find violence right there in our seemingly peaceful selves.

The most effective thing, as far as peacemaking goes, and most appreciated, has been having the space to think. A space where it feels safe to bring anything, even things that are distinctly not our best moment, and being heard without judgement. That, that acceptance, rather than ideas or suggestions for what to do, has been what brought us most peace. 

We’ve worked directly on specific examples of violence, in conflict at work, in business, conflict between family members, as well as the violence we hadn’t realised we’d been subjecting ourselves to. Always committed to finding a nonviolent, peaceful way to do things, no fighting for peace.

This, about light, from David Spangler of the Lorian Association for incarnational spirituality, rings true for what seems to have been happening as we have been gently giving peace a year.

“ Light does not attack or contest.

Light evokes itself within a sytem. It’s not so much that we send light to someone or someplace, as it is that we evoke through resonance their own Light or the light of that situation to emerge and to make itself known.

Light operates by changing the environment.

If I step into a dark room and switch on the light, the light doesn’t start fighting the darkness and forcing it to retreat.

The light simply is, and where it is, darkness cannot also be. Light alters the environment whether we’re talking about physical light or sacred Light.

In a strict sense there can be no warriors of Light. Rather there are light bearers, those who can bring into and evoke from a situation, potential for sacredness in expression.”

Extending this kindness towards ourselves, the space to be heard without judgement has been especially appreciated, and resulted in a growing presence of peace within us… it awakening…coming more to life.   

As the presence of peace has, without our being particularly conscious of it, grown within us, things have changed in our environment. Several situations that had historically been way less than fun than is good for our health, and where sniping back and forth was the pattern, surprisingly, didn’t pan out the way they had in the past. The habitual retort just wasn’t there, or it was spotted making its way out but dissolved before making it out into words.

These were instances where we hadn’t worked on the situation at all nor brought them to the group, and without our doing anything, it has been more peaceful.

This is a joy to me. Amongst all the calls for fighting for things, anything… and the valuing of hard work, effort and striving and sacrifice and so on… living amongst all that and to find things changing effortlessly. That it changed through our having changed our being. And that we’d changed our being by gently and regularly bringing our attention to it.

Stunning!

Does that feel pretty stunning to you?

It does to me… I feel a hallelujah! coming on.

Absolutely fan bloody tastic!

*big wide eyed smile of happiness that this really can be so*

It seems that, in these instances, we are being peace.

Being peace bearers.

No-one’s looking for a sainthood or polishing their halo… it’s in small, human, day to day life situations we’ve found the increased presence of peace, and there are many, many  situations where things aren’t peaceful at all.

And, that the presence of peace has grown in any way, as we have given it our attention throughout the year, we are happy. And declaring that worth it. 

.And we say thank you, and

MORE! 

We’re going to give peace another year. 

Give Peace a Year²

 

.The group is full.

– You can however join an ‘interested when places are available’ list, just email me via the contact page.

 

And I will be working 1:1

in response to requests for individual coaching on the apparent ease of being and how to bring it into service in life and work.

-Email or call me if you’d like to see whether some of that might work for you.

This coaching offer might be a way to try it out without committing to more.

 

 

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Give Peace a Year – Meeting twenty three

With the aim of peace everywhere,

 starting here and now, transforming violence and conflict of needs  in life, one word, thought or deed at a time.

Big Review

This was our second from last meeting and we spent it almost entirely in review, looking back at the road we’ve travelled this year.

Our last meeting will be on the 2nd February.

After that we’ll have heard from everyone who has taken part and write about

– what we’ve got from Giving Peace a Year,

– whether we want to continue,

and if so, are there any changes we’d like to make.

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Next  and final, in person meeting for this ‘Give Peace a Year’

 

Thursday 2nd February, 7.30 – 9pm

The Salisbury Arms Hotel, Hertford

 

Guidelines for the group here

Email to let me know if you’re coming and we’ll keep you a seat

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Give Peace a Year – Meeting twenty two

Photo Brooke Lark via Unsplash

With the aim of peace everywhere,

 starting here and now, transforming violence and conflict of needs  in life, one word, thought or deed at a time.

And because

it’s not the slog that will get us there, it’s the joy

for balance, things that warmed our hearts and made life a pleasure.

 

Starting where transformation is needed from the group of peace lovers this week on Thursday 5th January 2017

 

Mistake when booking tickets

Taking great care when booking train tickets and still booking the wrong date. The comments towards myself were not kind.

Empathy needed for the pain of the mistake and inconvenience of sorting it out and for the berating.

Starting with ourselves

This from Mary Mackenzie of The Nonviolent Communication Academy. It’s what we’ve been doing this year.

Many years ago, I felt utterly despairing that world peace was possible. And, then I realized that I was looking for it outside of myself – in my political leaders, supervisors, friends, ministers, and others. And, while I was looking for it outside of myself, I myself wasn’t acting peacefully in my everyday interactions with my family, friends, and others I encountered.

That was the moment when I realized that I can’t hope for world peace if I don’t hold it in my own heart, and that I didn’t need to be a powerful world leader to make a difference. My work is to bring peace to my own heart and extend it throughout whatever sphere of influence I have. Anything beyond that is someone else’s work. With this revelation, my despair was lifted and my focus clear.

What about you? What is your sphere of influence? Maybe in this moment bringing peace to your own heart is all the energy you can muster. I say yes to that! Maybe you want to dabble in bringing a new attitude to your workplace that will promote greater peace. Yes to that! Maybe you’d like to greet your partner or family with a kinder heart. Yes to that! Maybe living in compassion or forgiveness for yourself is where you are. Yes to that!

Mary Mackenzie NVC Academy

 

And the joy this time, much savouring has been had.

Pudding for breakfast

The Christmas mode that contains decadence in many ways. Brandy butter on toast for many days after Christmas until the tub was empty.  Lemon tart and cream for breakfast until it was used up.

Late afternoon DVD watching. 

Pootling. Letting things take the time they take and going at them in a really relaxed attentive way not the busy, brisk way of a normal day and enjoying the settled feeling and greater connection with things coming from that.

 

Next in person meeting

 

Thursday 19th January, 7.30 – 9pm

The Salisbury Arms Hotel, Hertford

Two meetings till the end of Give Peace a Year

Dates for the rest of the year here
Guidelines for the group here

Email to let me know if you’re coming and we’ll keep you a seat

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Give Peace a Year – Meeting twenty one

Photo Dawid Zawila Unsplash

With the aim of peace everywhere,

 starting here and now, transforming violence and conflict of needs  in life, one word, thought or deed at a time.

And because

it’s not the slog that will get us there, it’s the joy

for balance, things that warmed our hearts and made life a pleasure.

 

Starting where transformation is needed from the group of peace lovers this week on Thursday 15th December

 

This week, we’re starting to look back.

To see what has happened as a result of giving peace a year. Just three more meetings to go before our year is complete.

We started because I’d been shocked at my hair conditioner stating it’s intention to fight signs of dryness and started gathering up examples of where violence or violent language had crept into our worlds without us spotting it, and to transform it into what it is we’d really like to have happen. Starting with my hair and the soothing, smoothing and moisturising… better!

We’ve brought a wide variety of things for transformation. And enjoyed ourselves hugely doing it. And the most surprising thing is the effect on things we didn’t bring to work on directly. This aim for peaceful, ‘do no harm’ ways of being has spread without any effort, to other things.

-Family situations turning out so differently from the fighting norm.

-The habitual impulse to criticise in response to criticism usually strong and biting, barely a whimper.

-No effort or hard work but simply the benign presence seemingly dissolving conflict amongst a business group.

These weren’t situations that we worked on directly at all, or even talked about but they turned out differently.

It seems that through the intention to find peaceful nonviolent ways of being, and working on specific situations, has had a wider reach than we imagined.

The qualities we have, that which we are but is often buried and not seen or felt, has been held gently and given the conditions to grow.

And now its presence is being felt.

With no efforting, no doing, it simply is there. Being.

 

I cannot tell you how happy I feel about that.

 

I read this from David Spangler at The Lorian Association this week. It sums up so beautifully the way in which this has worked for us in the group.

“Light does not attack or contest.

Light evokes itself within a system. It’s not so much that we send light to someone or someplace as it is that we evoke through resonance their own light or the light of that situation to emerge and make itself known.

Light operates by changing the environment.

If I step into a dark room and switch on the light, the light doesn’t start fighting the darkness and forcing it to retreat.

The light simply is, and where it is, darkness cannot also be. Light alters the environment whether we’re talking about physical light or sacred light. In a strict sense there can be no warriors of light. Rather light bearers, those who can bring into and evoke from a situation, potential for sacredness in expression. “

And THAT is a joy.

 

Next in person meeting

 

Thursday 5th January, 7.30 – 9pm

The Salisbury Arms Hotel, Hertford

Three meetings till the end of Give Peace a Year

Dates for the rest of the year here
Guidelines for the group here

Email to let me know if you’re coming and we’ll keep you a seat

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A wisdom led 2017

Photo  Tina Rataj-Berard at Unsplash

One thing I’d like in 2017 is more wisdom.

To be guided by and let the tone be set by that deeper inner source. And to make space for that to be heard.

Please and thank you for more care, compassion and equality, at home, at work, in how business is done, and online. Eegads online *shudders*

Less please of hate, fear, fake news and post truth (lies)!

It is possible for us to set the tone for 2017, in our own worlds.

Even when the external circumstances are not good. I know we can do that.

What you bring, the qualities you bring to the world matter, they create the climate we live in and we need them very badly.

If you’d like to take 2017 into your own hands and set a different tone, I’m with you.

And I think 2017 can be intentionally created. By the likes of us. The more of us the better.

I’ve been working with a group this year, helping each other to set the tone, despite external circumstances. There’s a lot we’ve been happy with

– a board of trustees previously locked into longstanding patterns of criticism and bickering now giving most of their energy and attention to their purpose, and becoming productive with so much more ease.

– traditionally fight laden family gatherings becoming actually enjoyable with the habitual impulse to criticise reduced to barely a whisper.

-coming to trust and value intuition. Not allowing it to be dismissed and so coming to doubt it as in the past. Now I’m listening and with it informing my world there is so much more ease, creativity and flow. So much more peaceful.

This has been no Disneyfied bubble – it’s been a particularly tragic and difficult year. With frightening health worries, and early deaths of celebrities and friends, as well as all the chaos and shock of this year’s politics. On many days the external circumstances were very much setting the tone and the inner qualities buried so deeply there was real doubt that they existed or would ever surface again.

And yet… in the swirl of all that is, who we are and the qualities we bring have prevailed. The wave upon wave of tragic circumstances have not kept them buried.

They can be trusted to prevail.

And thank goodness for that.

Because I can almost hear 2017 crying out for us to soothe its fevered and furrowed brow and say everything’s going to be alright.

That we have a plan, can heal the divisions and take care of things.

The intent is there. The plan, not so much.

The good news is I don’t think we need a whole plan figured out before we start.

We do need to trust that we are enough and wise

and to see that maybe what’s missing is not a plan or wisdom but the space and time to listen for it.

“Through the tending of what seems at first just a whisper, through our breathing, and then speaking from that inner source, we find the voice of what has long been known in some inward reach of the psyche, about to discover itself only as it begins to speak.”

David Whyte

My inner source has this to say about encouraging the qualities we have to bring into being

Make the space, for the truth to safely surface

for what’s really wholehearted, to be safely felt

for what’s tight in there to unfurl a little

a little, a breath, a little more

it’s ok – it really is

what is there, in there, that is what’s needed

it’s alright – truly it is

take care with it, take care of it

unfurling, the beauty, the space

it can be, you can be

breathing again, deeper now, feeling the expansion

of the space, where you can be

where you can unfurl and be seen, seen, by yourself at least

what wants to be, to be seen

what wants to be taken into the world

the world needs it 

needs it especially now

Pauline Esson

Could it be that what’s missing is not wisdom but the space and time to listen for it.

On reading these words, a coaching client said

“That is exactly what it’s like to work with you.”

And the group said “Oh yes, that’s what we do here”

Starting with intent, create the conditions for listening to the inner source, then the discovery begins.

Set the tone for 2017

If you like the idea of having the qualities you bring set the tone for your year ahead and think you’d like to do that

and yet can’t quite picture how that would go

or imagine you’d do a whole lot better with some support

then I have an offer that you might like.  

 I’m hoping to bring coaching within reach for anyone wondering about just how different things could be with this kind of support.

How it works

‘Setting the tone for 2017.’

is a coaching package to support you with your potential to change the face of your year.

3 x 1 hour coaching sessions, via skype or phone, for £176 

We will

  • make the space for listening to your inner source
  • understand and set out the conditions in which you thrive
  • focus on the issues or circumstances best served by the qualities that you bring.

So that you and what you bring can set the tone for 2017 in your world.

This offer provides a taste and a beginning. Clients often continue to work together over the course of a year, this offer comes with the option for a further 3 sessions at the offer price.

If you already have an established practise of listening to and trusting your inner wisdom but there’s something else that you’d like to use the sessions for I’m open to tailoring sessions, let me know what you need.

It could be your gift to yourself, or someone else, that changes what’s possible in your New Year.

Your future self will thank you.

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 – Three sessions, one per week to get started

– Sessions at 10am or 2pm GMT, Tue, Wed, or Thur

-Payment can be made by bank transfer or paypal invoice

There are 5 offer places available. If you think this could be just what you need to set the tone for 2017 I’d love to work with you. 

Book your place.

To book send me an email headed ‘Setting the tone for 2017’

to pauline (at) withintegrity (dot) co (dot) uk  or use the contact form ,  I’ll send you payment details and available dates to choose from.  

I’m happy to answer questions or discuss anything you’re not sure of. Please do ask, I don’t believe there’s such a thing as a silly question.  Email or use the contact form and I’ll get back to you.

(exc holiday 24-26th December)
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