School Holiday Survival for Introverts

 

It’s hard for them to understand that you need quiet

You’re there so why can’t you play, NOW

Understandable

 

Yet you DO need quiet

Lest you begin to speak …in less than gracious tones

Lest you land their dinner…elsewhere than on their plates

Lest your blood pressure rises…to somewhat higher than healthy levels

 

How much quiet is your minimum for sanity during the school holidays?

5 minutes per day, 20, 30, an hour?

How is that going?

 

If you sometimes work from home and they do understand the need for quiet and to leave you in peace when you’re on a client or conference call, but don’t understand at all when you ‘just need quiet’…

 

Here you are… shutting the door for a conference call with yourself

 

If your mind won’t let you be and you’re better when you have a focus there’s free help here

Susan Piver runs the open heart project, a gorgeous offering of personal peace via meditation, the basic level is free and might offer enough school holiday sanctuary to see you through.

The meditations are based on the breath and are non denominational.

 

I hang an orange scarf over the door when I’m meditating (or having a conference call) so everyone knows not to knock unless the house is burning down.

 May your school holidays be serene.

 

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The Face of an Introvert Understood

 

Space to think

 

She knew I was in need of space and quiet

For ‘next phase of life’ thinking purposes

And so offered me their house, while they were away, to think in

Isn’t that lovely

 

Peace

 

There’s more

They’re having some building work done at the moment and she stopped the builders working while I was there

It’s hard enough getting builders to quote, let alone turn up and work…but to tell them they’d have to down tools for a bit to accommodate my peace…..

Knowing the space would be worse than useless without peace

Well. That’s more than lovely

I’m so very, very grateful

 

Beauty too

 

 

A rose in my bedroom

And the body lotion I’d been praising to the heavens

 

Consideration, acceptance and help

 

Someone taking time to understand what you need

Taking what you need taken into account, and arranging it for you

Having someone do that for you

 

If she were a man I’d be considering proposing

 

 

 

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Peonies and the prospect of a 21 hour work week

 

Peonies

Make an introvert happy

Peonies and the prospect of a 21 hour work week

That’s what’s a pleasure for me at the moment, my introvert self is particularly keen on this prospect.

 

The New Economics Foundation are proposing a 21 hour work week. Maybe working towards it over a decade

They aim for ‘economics as if people and the planet mattered’

 

What do you think?

How many hours would you like to work per week?

 

I’d like to see how that could work. In reality.

And sooner than ten years would be good for me.

 

I’m currently contemplating the amount of time I need to spend marketing; tweeting, facebooking, Linked Ining etc etc etc that will be necessary for my work, to spread the word sufficiently.

My introverted self, for whom I have the greatest respect and empathy, is already whimpering and quivering in a corner at just the prospect of it.

And then I got wind of the 21 hour work week proposition. That prospect makes her eyes wide with anticipated pleasure.

She looks at me in earnest, imploring me to make it happen. To take it seriously, to not stop till we get there.

I haven’t promised anything yet.

But oh how I want to.

 

It’s not just me I’m thinking of, but all those who are massively overworked and making themselves ill.

And all those unemployed, underworked, depressed and dispirited.

 

This could provide the mechanics to make David Whyte’s tantalising suggestion work. The suggestion he makes in his book The Three Marriages, that work life balance is not what we should be aiming for.

That we shouldn’t try to balance, but to to integrate our 3 marriages; to work, to a partner/home and to our self.

 

Putting aside the money for now, how many hours a week would you like to work?

 

Four hours a day, five days a week would work well for me.

Writing for a couple of hours, coaching for another couple, then reading, painting, cooking, domestics and seeing friends in a relaxed way for the rest of the day.

I can almost feel the ease. No rushing. No more a sense of being behind and needing to catch up with the list of what needs to be done.

My introverted self breathes a huge sigh of relief and begs me to make it happen.

 

In this blog post, there’s a short video and links to the longer report on the 21 hour work week proposal

http://deliveringhappinessatwork.com/can-a-21-hour-work-week-work/

 

I’d love to hear what you think.

What your ideal number of hours would be. How you’d configure them.

How it could work for you.

And if you get that far, what would need to happen for it to work economically for you.

 

 

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Inspiring Tales of Pleasure At Work

Do you know someone who can still find work a pleasure even in the current climate, who, when they talk about it, make your stress levels drop a bit and begin to remember there’s good bits?

I’m gathering examples of pleasure at work.

I’d like to post them here at the blog to provide inspiration, for the times when we

don’t know how to get pleasure into our lives

or

have got into a rut of just surviving and forgotten that pleasure could be any part of our world right now.

 

I would like to invite you to share…

 

What do you, or your colleagues, do that makes work a pleasure?

 

Despite the stresses of recession, high volume workload, and all the pressures that you’re facing right now?

 

If you’d like to contribute, to spread the word, send me a short video to show here at the blog.

Tell us what your circumstances are, what are the challenges, what you do to make it a pleasure even in the midst of that, and what the results are.

 

You can:

  • record it yourself  (if you have that capacity, not much more than 2 mins is good) , post it to YouTube or Vimeo and  send me the link in an email

  • contact me and arrange for me to come and record your tale of pleasure in person (if you’re UK home counties)

  • contact me to arrange a Skype call to record your tale of pleasure

I’ll wait in excited anticipation!

 

Jane has kindly got the party started with two videos.

Go Jane!

How much would you’d like someone with Jane’s spirit around the office!

Leave a comment to share what you do that makes work a pleasure

or

Leave a comment for Jane

Gather in close to listen…the volume isn’t as loud as we’d like, we’re getting that sorted, in the meantime

Over to you Jane…..

 

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The Pleasure Report. Year 3 Week 7 The casserole edition

Fifty nine pleasure points

12:1 pleasure to pain ratio

 

The Pleasure

 

Fifty nine. That’s on the low side

But there were a few of the pleasures this week that were so wonderful, I’d have been happy with them alone

 

A selection of the pleasure

 

A Welcome

 

I visited a new bunch of people this week

And the Welcome I got was so welcoming that I’m giving it a capital W

The quality of attention and the sense of complete unconditional acceptance…no …it was more than acceptance

It was a welcome

And they were completely present, not half of their attention off elsewhere attending to something else

That is so very rare in my world these days

Oh my

That was gorgeous

 

A Casserole

 

I visited my wee man, he’s away at University

And I took a casserole

Ha!

I turned into traditional Mama

Ha!

This is a new persona that has shown up unexpectedly

The day before the visit I suddenly found myself thinking…yes, chicken and veg…that’s what I’ll put in the casserole

Whilst the other parts of me were turning to each other in surprise asking ‘the casserole……what casserole?’

And there was the (new and unrecognisable) trad Mama, in the car going to the supermarket for the ingredients and spending the evening cooking

Whilst the other parts looked curiously on

 

I quite enjoyed it

We’ve decided to make it a regular thing

Once a month, I’ll bring a casserole, he’ll supply the wine

Nice…I like it

 

Bentlily poetry

 

Oh beautiful is she

The art of noticing life

In a poem a day

Completely perfect for a life of pleasure

To notice the moments of life and gaze on them, till you feel them even more

 

This from the Valentine’s day poem, The cinnamon drink

‘promise me you’ll tell them

it was the rumble of daily life

that made me flush

with love for you’

 

see the whole poem at bentlily

 

 

The Pain

 

Sleep is fitful

It’s not surprising, with all the change and mourning, and letting go

But it leaves me with less energy for the practicalities, the organising of changes and letting go

This too will pass

 

 

How about you?

How’s your week been?

I’d love to hear

Come and share all in the comments

 

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